If you want to have a serious, grownup discussion with your boyfriend about your future together, you need to stop acting like a child.You need to stop with the passive-aggressive behavior (i.e.“I won’t go to your daughter’s wedding because we’ve been together for four years and you haven’t talked marriage with me yet”), put on your big girl panties, and tell your boyfriend that you’ll be happy to go to his daughter’s wedding with him because you care about him, you want to celebrate this milestone in his life, and you’d love the opportunity to get to know his family better.

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If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at [email protected](be sure to read these guidelines first). I am 41 years old, never married, and have been in a long distance relationship with a widower for four years. He did not give me any assurance either that it is going to be “us” in the future.

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I’m just his girlfriend in a non-committal relationship, so what right do I have to attend his daughter’s wedding? I also told him that since we are not in a committed relationship, I don’t want his relatives and in-laws to meet me only to find out that my boyfriend and I don’t end up together.

Also, I am worried that, if I attend, I will feel the insecurities that this boyfriend of mine does not love me enough to ask me to marry him even after four years together.

His daughter and her fiancé are just in their third year together and now they are getting married in four months.

I really don’t have the self-confidence to attend this wedding because I am not secure in my status as his girlfriend. — Four Years and Still Waiting First of all, you don’t need to be in a committed relationship with someone to go as that person’s date to a wedding.

A few weeks ago, he told me that his eldest daughter, whom I met a couple of times, is getting married in four months and I’m invited to the wedding.

When I told him I could not come, that answer did not sit well with him.